So by now it should be obvious that I'm going through some difficult times. Dealing with a breakup, yes. Dealing with all those stupid jewelry commercials that never bothered me before but now make me want to vomit. Dealing with the most annoying holiday songs like "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas." It can all go to hell.
I clearly have some emotional vampires in my life. I'm getting better at cutting them out when it comes to friends (or supposed friends), but when it comes to romantic partners, I suck. This is something I take full responsibility for, and something that in future relationships I will really try to recognize earlier on so I don't repeat the mistakes of this one. But what do you do when it's someone you can't so easily cut out - like a family member?
I love my mom to pieces, and I would never trade her for the world, but the truth is that there are some things we just clash on. I've tried to be more patient with her, she's made efforts to address the issues I've had with her - such as constantly complaining to me about my father. But we just seem to always hit a wall. It breaks her heart that we aren't closer, and I don't want to be the cause of my mother's pain. But how do you help someone learn that they need to live their own life? I feel my mom doesn't have an identity outside of being a mother to her children, and though I don't have children of my own, I can't imagine this is healthy. I know that no one can make me happy except myself. How to you teach that to someone else? And in the mean time, how do you cut out the emotional vampire when it's someone you love?
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