I love love love this suggestion! And it comes at a time when I need a much needed pick me up and reminder to stay the course. You see, I was supposed to have started my new job today but found out at the eleventh hour that I would not be since my license has yet to come through. We knew that would be a possibility, but figured they would start the orientation process anyway. Nope. Ugh. I'm now concerned that it might be a while before I get to start working, as I thought they only had orientation once a month. My recruiter has reassured me this is not the case and as soon as my license comes in I will be able to start.. I guess I'll believe it when I see it.
Anyway, back to the post! Why is this so hard for people, particularly females, to do? Interestingly enough, I have decided to make this my "skill" new years resolution this year. Every year I make two resolutions: one that will better my life in some way, and one to learn a new skill that will keep my brain from turning to old mush. Last year it was to get my personal finances in order, and learn to knit. In some respects, this year's "skill" will also most likely better my life (as the article points out) but I'm keeping my other resolution (to find a therapist and really start working on myself) as my main focus.
I think the article hits the nail on the head when it says "accepting a compliment is not narcissistic" because I think that is many people's fear. They're afraid they will sound conceited or full of themselves if they don't answer in some self-depreciating way. From a very young age, I can remember observing how my mom could never accept a compliment. If my dad said "nice job on dinner, Lin" she would immediately respond with 50 things that were wrong with it. And I think we mirror those around us.
Why shouldn't we be able to accept compliments? We do tons of amazing things every day; we should be able to be recognized for them. I'm sure none of us would hesitate to compliment a friend for doing an amazing thing. Or comment on her cute sweater or new hair style. I think we all should take today's lesson to heart and learn to acknowledge our attributes.
I'll leave you with one of my favorite recent youtube/comedy central finds, it's brilliant.
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